Don’t try to look past the first date after great chats online. Enjoy yourself and see what happens. If you are trying to set up the rest of your life in a few hours, you will miss the here and now. If you two are meant to be together, you will be together.
Enjoy this moment.
When you are setting the date up, don’t make plans for several events. If you plan dinner and dancing and you don’t hit it off, you will have trouble getting out of the dancing. Plan dinner and see what happens after that.
Pick a restaurant where you will be able to talk to each other without screaming over loud music. You can’t get to know someone if you are only able to use hand gestures.
Always plan to meet your date at the date location.
Meet at the restaurant. This way you will have a way out without all the pressures and so will your companion.
If you really had a great time and you can sense your date had a great time, make arrangements for your next date. If you mention your next date and your companion seems uninterested, move on. There are plenty of people out there. You can’t make someone like you if they don’t.
Don’t take rejection personally. Not every one likes each other. This isn’t because you aren’t worthy or good enough. This is just the way life works. Face the facts and find another date.
Remember, beauty is only skin deep. You will want to be clean and neat for your date but don’t think you or your date have to be fashion models to get along. Get to know the person inside.
If you have the chance to talk to the person on the phone before you set the date up, do this. Do it more than once if possible. You will be able to figure out if you are compatible before you go through the stress of a face to face encounter.
Always be yourself. Don’t try to be someone you think he or she wants you to be. If this turns into a long term relationship, you don’t want to have to explain this later.
John Andrick has found his perfect love, but it took many years. Before he became an experienced consultant with an MBA, he toured the country as a road manager for a popular rock & roll band and shares his experiences. See www.safeloveonline.com is a more complete collection of information.